• DO IT OR NOT DO IT ! NEW YORK example in it

    From the book “HOW TO TALK TO ANYONE – LEIL LOWNDES

    To be a modern-day renaissance man or woman

    Whenever friends visit my hometown, New York City, I warn them “Never ask anyone driving in a subway for directions” – Just because you will never get where you going!

    Most Big Apple subway riders know only 2 things about the subway: where they get on and where they get off. They know nothing about rest of the system.

    Most people are like NYC strap-hangers when it comes to their hobbies and interests. They know their own pastimes, but all others are like unvisited stations..

    My unmarried friend Rita has a bad case of bowler’s thumb. Every Wed night she is bowling up a storm with her friends. She is forever discussing her scores, her averages, and her high game. Another single friend is into white-water rafting. He talks endlessly with his paddling friends about which rivers he’s run, which outfitters he’s gone with, and which class rapids he prefers. Thinking my two single friends might hit it off, I introduced Walter to Rita&mention their respective passions….During the deafening silence, I remember thinking, if Rita had run just one river, If Walter had bowled just one game, their lives might be different now. Conversation could have flowed, and who knows what else might have flowered.”

    So AUTHOR proposed SCRAMBLE THERAPY

    This technique is salvation from such disappointing encounters. It will transform you into a modern-day Renaissance man or woman who comfortably can discuss a variety of interests.

    Scramble therapy is, quite simply, scrambling up your life and participating in an activity you’d never think of indulging in. Just one of every 4 weekends, do something  totally out of your pattern. Go kayaking, if you normally play tennis this weekend. Go fly a kite! Why? Because it will give you conversational fodder for the rest of your life. From that weekend on you will sound like an islander with all the hikers, stamp collectors, ballooners, birders, billiards players, kayakers, and kitists you ever meet. Just by doing their activity once.

    You will never be at a loss again when the subject of extracurricular interest comes up – which it always does.